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THE RIGHTS AND STATUS OF PARENTS IN ISLAM

Sadeeeqi Naseer

THE RIGHTS AND STATUS OF PARENTS
IN ISLAM

Our parents have been with us throughout most of our lives,
teaching us and being mentors for us. In Islam, honouring and
respecting one’s parents is not something to be done once a year,
rather, they should be honoured and respected every single day.
the status of parents in Islam is very high. We as a Muslim
should give respect and love to our parents. Parents are to be
treated well at all times this is a virtuous kind of act in the sight
of Allah Subhan watala. Parents and children in Islam are
connected together by mutual obligations.
Allah subhanwaltalla says in Holy Quran: “…No mother should
be harmed through her child and no father through his
child…” (Quran 2: 233).
From this verse of Holy Quran, we can conclude that Quran
has made it obligatory for the child to treat his parents with all
mercy and and grace.
And in another aayah of holy quran allah subhanwatala says
that….
And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him,
and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them
reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as],
“uff,” and do not repel them but speak to them a noble
word..surah al asra (17)…aayat 23
In a hadith reported by Abu Huraira, we learn that the Messenger
of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

Verily, Allah made the creation and when he finished, the womb
said: At this place, I seek refuge in you from those who sever me.
Allah said: Are you not pleased that I keep good relations with
those who are good to you and I will cut off whoever severs
relations with you? The womb said: Yes, my Lord. Allah said:
Then it is for you.[Ṣaḥih Bukhari 5641, Ṣaḥiḥ Muslim 2554]
This teaches us that Allah SWT will maintain good relations with
those who are good to their families and he will cut off from those
who cut off from their families. It also shows us that in Islam,
honouring and respecting one’s parents is of utmost importance.
However, unfortunately, most us youth today do not treat their
parents with the respect they deserve.
Nowadays, we yell and fight with our parents incessantly, often over
insignificant issues and topics. It is easy for us to spend hours
online or hanging out with our friends, but we cannot stand
spending even a second in the presence of a parent.
As we age, our parents grow older as well, limiting the time that we
have left to spend in their company. In some cases, when parents
are old, they are pushed aside and end up living in nursing homes
or homeless shelters. This is very disrespectful to our parents. This
level of carelessness towards one’s parents is forbidden in Islam.
Together, we should all strive to spend time with our parents and
push towards growing closer as a family and learning to love one
another.
As I have also mentioned above this aayah which Allah
subhanwatala mentioned in the Quran: “Your Lord has decreed
that you worship none but Him, and that you be kind to your
parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in your life,
say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address

them in terms of honour” (17:23). The understanding of this verse
is that we should express kindness to our parents and speak to
them in a respectful and soft manner. The Arabic word mentioned
in the verse for disrespectful or aggressive speech is “uff”, which
shows that even a simple groan could fall under the category of
‘disrespectful or aggressive speech’. And so, Allah has commanded
us to address our parents with high respect and deference
In Islam, our parents are obligated to raise us and provide for us.
At the very least, we should try to make up for their hard work by
giving them a small gift time to time or a dua that may bring a smile
to their faces. Small, kind actions are greatly appreciated by parents
and remind them of the wonderful advantages of raising a
respectful child.
It is obligatory no for only (Muslims) but for non mulims also
to show the unconditional kindness, respect, and obedience to
their parents. Just like it is beyond our means to fulfill the rights
of Allah (SWT) and to thank Him for all His rewards in their
integrity, similarly, we can never thank our parents adequately
for their efforts which they have done for us. The only thing that
we can do is to acknowledge our shortcomings and submit
ourselves, in obedience and loyalty, before our parents. In Holy
Quran, Allah Almighty says: “And We have enjoined on man
(to be good) to his parents. In travail upon travail did his mother
bear him, and in two years was his weaning. Show gratitude to
Me and to thy parents; to Me is thy final goal.” (Quran, 31:14)
Every Muslim must show kindness and mercy to his parents
throughout their lives. It is obligatory on children to show love,
respect, and gratitude to their parents. Always speaks to parents
politely and respectfully. Our Parents as a team provided for all
our needs: Physical, Educational, Psychological, and in many

instances, Religious, Moral, and Spiritual. It becomes obligatory
for us to show the utmost Kindness, Respect, and Obedience to
our Parents.
The Quranic commandments and the sayings of Prophet
Muhammad (SAW) guide us in this matter of respecting parents
with love, respect, and kindness.
In Holy Quran respect of parents is mentioned about eleven times,
Allah Almighty has mentioned in every instance to recognize and
to appreciate love and care that your parents gave to you. Regarding
this Allah says in Holy Quran: “And We have enjoined upon man
goodness to parents…” (Quran 29:8 & 46:15)
A person once approached the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon
him and his family) and said: “I have an old father and mother,
who due to their attachment towards me, are not keen for me to
go to Jihad”. Hearing this, the Noble Prophet (peace be upon him
and his family) said:
“(If such is the case then) Stay with your parents for, by the One in
whose control lies my soul, their attachment of one day and one
night to you is better than one year of Jihad.”These lines taught us
that if we spend time and service well to our parents that is also a
jihad
The children must pray for parents saying, as Allah Almighty
teaches us in the verse:”…My Lord and Sustainer! Be kind and
have mercy on them as they cherished, nurtured and sustained me
in childhood.” (Quran 17:24). From this verse, we came to know
that must continue praying for parents even after they die. Such
prayer will be regarded as a continuous charity as the Prophet
(SAW), told us. As being grateful to Allah Almighty is a form of

worship which earns divine rewards, it can, therefore, be said that
being grateful to one’s parents also earns divine rewards.
There are some traditions of Prophet Muhammad (SAW) about
treatment with parents in the best way are mentioned below:
1.If someone is disrespectful and rude towards his parents, hurt
them by saying insulting remarks or cause them grief or misery in
any manner, then he shall find his place in Hell. Once someone
asked the Holy Prophet (SAW): “What right does parents have
over their children?” He answered: “They are your heaven and
hell.” (Ibn Majah).
So dear brothers and sisters if you want to that your place in
aakhirah should be janah then you should respect your parents it
will also make your duniya better.
2.Our duties to our parents extend even after their death. One of
the best ways to honor our parents when they are gone is by being
kind to their friends. Holy Prophet (SAW) said about it: “The best
act of righteousness is that a man should maintain good relations
with his father’s loved ones.” (Sahih Muslim)
3.In another Hadith Holy Prophet (SAW) said: “No child can
compensate his father unless he finds him as a slave, buys him, and
sets him free.” (Sahih Muslim)
4.The Prophet (SAW) placed kindness and respect towards
parents just after the prayer offered on time as the prayer is the
base of Islam. ‘Abdullah Ibn Masood, said: “I asked the
Prophet (SAW) which deed is most liked by Allah. He said:
‘Prayer offered on time.’I asked him: ‘Then what?
He (SAW) said: ‘Kindness and respect towards parents.’…” (Al￾Bukhari)

The Holy Prophet (S) says:

“Beware! Abstain from angering the parents. The fragrance of
Paradise is perceived even at a distance of a thousand years, but
those who are disobedient to parents and those who cut off ties
with relatives will not be able to smell it.”
The Holy Prophet (S) also said.
“One who displeases the parents, (it is as if) he has displeased
Allah. One who angers both his parents (it is as if) he has angered
Allah.”
Elsewhere, it is mentioned,
“One who hurts his parents, hurts me and one who hurts me has
hurt Allah. And the one who hurts Allah is accursed.”
Mustadrak ul-Wasa’il
The Prophet (S) has also stated:
“Allah will not speak to Three kinds of people on the Day of
qayamah . Neither will He have mercy upon them, nor will He
purify their sins. There is for them a horrible chastisement. The
Three types of people are the believers in destiny, the drunkards
and those who disobeyed their parents.”
Let us pray to Allah (SWT) that we do our best to respect our
parents, honor them, be kind to them, and please them so that
we may gain the love of Allah Almighty. May Allah (SWT) grant
us the Divine success that we may come be regarded amongst
those who have been good towards their parents.our parents are
obligated to raise us and provide for us. At the very least, we
should try to make up for their hard work by giving them a small
gift time to time or a dua that may bring a smile to their faces.
Small, kind actions are greatly appreciated by parents and
remind them of the wonderful advantages of raising a respectful

child. May also Almighty Allah guide us to be respectful, loving
and kind to our parents and so that we always stay humble and
respectful regardless of the power, wealth, position and
influence we may possess. Ameen!


(Writer has completed M.sc botany at jiwaji university gwalior ( mp)
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